When thinking about change we have to discuss exactly what it is that motivates you to achieve your desired state and manifest your new reality. So What motivates you?
Motivation is a theoretical concept which is used to explain our behaviour. Psychologists have had many theories of motivation such as Abraham Maslow who believed that individuals had physiological and psychological need. Maslow developed a model called the hierachy of need to try to explain this.
Your motivation may depend on what your desired state of being is. You may wish to lose weight, quit smoking, start a new relationship, get a new job or start a business. Whatever your desired state of being is and whatever you desire to manifest, you will have a motivation. Using the weight loss example this motivation might be to be more confident, more attractive. You may also want to reduce the risk of type 2 Diabetes or a stroke, so whatever you desire is there is going to be a driver.
So what drives you?
Remember in an earlier post I spoke about eco-systems. Currently you are operating and interacting within the eco-system of your current state of being. You have been conditioned over a long period of time to stay within that eco-system. But what is keeping here? Reward! The reward for staying within the eco-system of your current state of being is security. You may see change as hard to do, you might feel that you will fail and that this will be a source of embarrassment for you. So you feel safe and secure.
Despite this you still have a desire to manifest change, in the weight loss example you may wish to lose 2 stones. So now you can see the eco-system of your desired state of being coming into close proximity and this causes a tension inside you or an eco-tone. This is because you are not there yet, you may not know fully how to get there. But you have laid foundations to build a bridge (self awareness etc). You have also started to build the support resources supporting your journey (Changing thought prcesses and attitudes etc).
So now you can see the way is open to you and you can cross your bridge and enter the eco-system of your desired state of being. At first you have to push yourself towards it, this can feel like hard work. This is especially so when you confront an obstacle, remember in a previous post we covered this. You have to find the will power to push through the obstacle using the support resource to help you. But along the journey there comes a time when the desire becomes so strong, you feel you have to get there no matter what! You can now clearly see the eco-system of your desired state and you find that almost magnetically you are being pulled towards you desired state of being and you are not pushing any more. Pull motivation is much stronger as you seem to almost effortlessly get to your desired state and manifest your new reality.
Once there you want to make this change permanent, what are your rewards? In the weight loss example you may feel more attractive, you may feel healthier, more confident. You must now condition yourself to this new state of being to make this change permanent.
So very briefly then, we have discussed an overview of motivation. There is motivation which can be seen as a physical need or a psychological one. You have been conditioned but still desire change. You have been rewarded with security but you want the rewards of your desired state of being. You may have to push yourself but then along the journey eventually you feel pulled towards your desired state of being, until you arrive there. You then have to make change permanent through further conditioning and reward.
Hope this post helped to explain your motivation and how this maybe working both for and against you.
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