Don’t Allow Overwhelm, Get in the Way of Your Success in Personal Change

Mark had been married for 4 years and during the course of the marriage he felt happy and Successful. One day his wife left him with no explanation and he suddenly felt plunged into despair. He began to neglect himself, his diet, personal care and his own drive and motivation. He had sleepless nights thinking about how things could have been different, almost wishing his wife back into his life.

This caused him challenges in the self aspect of his eco-system. His health began to suffer as he was becoming low in mood and anxious. He became lethargic because of a lack of sleep and also he lacked motivation. He was also losing weight unintentionally due to neglecting his diet.

In the social layer of his eco-system he was neglecting other relationships, his wider family, friends and work colleagues. This was because he was beginning to isolate himself socially. He was feeling as though success was evading him.

It soon became clear that his wife wouldn’t be returning this realisation arrived at around the 6 week point. His feeling of despair began to leave him and he began to feel he should be more proactive in helping himself. He began to think of how his life might look if he changed his current state of being.

In sessions Mark was helped to acknowledge that his current thoughts were unhelpful to him. He was encouraged to see a new state of being in the form of a new eco-system coming into view.

He worked on building up self awareness of his emotions. He had always been a dependent person. He saw that his wife was the key to his happiness instead of understanding that to find happiness it should be coming from within himself.

Once this awareness had been established, he began to build his bridge of personal change and transformation to take him to the new eco-system in moving from one state of being to another. He began to put into place the support resources, getting clear on what he desired from the new eco-system. Changing the way he was thinking about happiness and relationships. Taking action on what he desired as change and solving problems that presented themselves along the way.

Once he had concluded his 8 sessions he had built the bridge, supported it and moved successfully into the eco-system of his desired change. Realising that to be happy he had to find happiness from within himself and not from anyone else. This empowered him to rebalance his holistic health or state of being.

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My Name is Richard Williams. I'm a Registered Nurse in Mental Health by profession. I have also developed a model for change and personal transformation and this is the basis of my blog.

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