Case Study: Simon
Simon is a 51 y/o married man with 2 grown up children. He has been married for 28 years and his Wife (Julie) loves him. His Children had left 2 years earlier to pursue marriage and the youngest – University, they were in regular contact as they love their parents. Since his Children left home and went off on their own paths, Simon became increasingly more dissatisfied with his life.
He noticed that he was blaming his Wife for most things that he saw as going wrong in their lives. He also noticed that he had become more irritable and was having some difficulty in getting to sleep at night.
Simon had become so dissatisfied with life that he couldn’t see any reason to be happy. Simon himself was in good health, as was Julie. All Simon could see was that every time something he saw as going wrong in his life happened, well – that led to something else going wrong too.
He knew that he should do something about this state of mind. In personal development coaching sessions Simon was taught a relaxation technique (controlled breathing) which he was to practice for 5 minutes each time and 3 times a day. He was also encouraged to list all the things he had experienced in life and all that he currently had in his life that gave him a reason to feel thankful.
Upon writing up his thankfulness journal, Simon noticed that he was beginning to feel more appreciative of all the things in his life, Julie, his children, his own health, his home, his possessions, his job. Once he started to write up his journal he began to notice that there was so much in his life to be grateful for.
After 2 weeks of doing this he felt more relaxed in himself. He also felt appreciative for all he had in his life. He even started to see perceived negative events as positive as there is something to be learned from each experience in life. This new learning leads to more positive changes.
Julie noticed the difference and felt much more relaxed around him. He now finds reasons to be thankful while enjoying all that he has in his life right now.