What Should I do if I Think I’m having Problems?

Often when we attempt change we have a tendency to become lost in the challenge. Remember that up to this point you should already have started to use the resources I discussed in previous posts.

But as a checklist it is always worth checking back at just what has been discussed so far. Over the previous posts I have discussed the process of personal change and transformation, I have discussed this in terms of the ETONE model. The model is based on a social psychology theory called Eco-systems theory.

The model suggests that we all interact within our own individual Eco-systems. When contemplating change we can see another Eco-system looming into view. This can cause a tension within us called an Eco-tone.

The process involves building a bridge across transformation to make the journey quicker and easier to navigate. Supporting the bridge are the support resources, which are:

  • Changing thoughts/emotions (cognitive restructuring)
  • Get clear
  • Behavioural activation
  • Find inspiration
  • Take action
  • SMART goals
  • Relaxation

You should practice all of these daily in order to achieve lasting change. Which brings me too the next support resource. Problem solving.

So what do you do if you feel you’re running into problems with your transformation challenge?

In this post we are going to take a look at problem solving. I have a free resource you can access by clicking here.

Basically you have to name the problem first of all. Next you should ‘brain storm’ all the possible solutions to the problem. Once this has been done you need to shortlist the main list to a workable solution. When you click here you can download a free template.

So now we have looked at a checklist of all the support resources you should be using up to this point and you can add problem solving as a support on your journey to lasting change.

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Relax!

One resource you should consider on your journey to making permanent and lasting change is how to relax.  Relaxation is very important in clearing your mind, everyone should find at least 5 minutes a day to meditate and relax.

So how do you achieve this state? How will relaxing benefit me? To be relaxed you first of all have to be relaxed in mind to be able to relax in body. The benefits are that you should be able to give yourself some mind space for a short period of time.

We all suffer from bothersome thoughts, in fact we have thousands of thoughts a day. Relaxing will just give you 5 minutes or so to have some space from those thoughts.

To prepare yourself, find a quiet space somewhere you won’t be disturbed with minimal disruptions. Take a bid deep breath in and let it out with a big sigh.

on you next deep breath in count to 7. When you let it out slowly, count to 11. Continue to repeat this process for about 5 minutes. The end result should be that you feel more relaxed. If it helps play some relaxing music.

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How To Write Intentions the Right Way

In my last post I discussed the SMART formula: Stated, Measurable, Achievable, Resourced and Time limited. But how do you write up your goals the right way? In this post I am going to explore how you can do this.

Firstly I said that you state an intention. So again if we use weight loss as an example I might frame it like this: “It is July 3rd and I have lost 12 pounds”. Here I am stating in the present tense. This is because it sends a powerful message to the subconscious mind. The message is that I have lost weight and so this is the direction I am now moving in. If I stated it in the future ie “On July 3rd I will have lost 12 pounds in weight” I am saying that I am not yet moving in this direction and at some point in the future this will happen. The message being that it is ok to continue as I am because in the future I will lose the specified weight.

Does this make sense?

I want to send out the signal that this is already the direction I am moving in. You could also frame it like this: “Everyday I am losing more weight,  July 3rd  I have lost 12 pounds”.  Write your intention down as clearly as possible to help you to manifest the end result much more easily.

Next we should be clear on why I desire this. So ask the question why do I desire this? Don’t force the answer just let it percolate for a short time and the answer will come. Write your answer down but don’t let this be too complex.

How much do desire this? Here write the answer down on a scale of 0-100%. Once you have the answer put it to one side for a couple of hours and then come back to it. Is the score still the same? How do you feel about it? Do you get a strong feeling about it? If so then you have completed that step.

Write down the steps that got you there. It is OK to use guess work here because as you start to move through the steps you can always update you intention.

Once you have the steps think about the intention you have created. Strongly visualise the whole intention from beginning to end and see it in your mind as done. Write down a statement of emotion, how did it feel to see it done? Can you see yourself manifesting this into your reality?

Once you have completed these steps. You want to put the goal to one side overnight. Does it still ring true when you read it back to yourself the next day? If so, you have your intention (goal).

The next phase is to read the goal a couple of times a day and see it happening as if it had already taken place. The best time to do this might be before going to sleep at night and when you wake up. This is because the mind is processing information while you sleep (The reason why you dream).

What should I do next? I would suggest setting a short term goal (no less than 1 week from the time you set it and no more that 3 weeks). A medium term goal (no less than a month and no more than 3 months). Finally a long term goal no less than 3 months no maximum time limit). Once you have achieved a goal replace it immediately with another so that you always have 3 goals on the go at any one point in time.

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No-Nonsense SMART Formula

In the last post we discussed SMART as the formula for setting goals. But before we jump right into that I think we should just review where we are up to.

In the previous posts we have talked about resources. These are your support resources, that support the journey across your bridge to personal transformation. It is important to understand that all of these support resources are essential to use. The idea is that you learn about one then implement and then continue to use the resource while adding another to your bridge building. So lets take a look at what those support resources were that we discussed.

1. Changing Thought Processes (Cognitive Restructuring): In this section I discussed that thoughts affect the way we feel about anything and this sets our attitude. To effectively make change permanent you should look to change the way you think about any given transition challenge. One way discussed that may help you to achieve this was through Hypnotherapy. I suggested that one expert in that field was Dr Steve G Jones (Clinical Hypnotherapist) who has the largest collection of hypnotherapy recordings online. I have used his products and they are really good! So it is important to restructure your thought processes to adjust your attitude towards the change you are about to embark upon.

2. Behavioural Activation (Taking Action): Here I talked about how taking action in the magic ingredient on moving you from one state of being to another. As you begin to take action you are moving closer towards your desired state. I suggested that a way of helping you to achieve this was through an activity planner as this helps you to get organised.

3. Find Inspiration/Feel Uplifted: Make a list of all the things that have ever caused you to feel happy, uplifted or inspired and use these experiences as a spring board towards success in your desired change.

…So this now brings us onto the SMART formula.

What exactly is the SMART formula? Let’s take a closer look:

S – Stated. You must first of all state an intention.

M – The goal has to be measurable. So for example if you have chosen to lose weight you may weigh yourself weekly to see the progress you are making.

A – The goal you are setting has to be achievable within your ability, resources etc.

R – We spoke about resources well your goal has to be resourced. So you have to have available resources to help you to achieve it. So if that is losing weight, then you may have joined a weight loss program, you may have looked at meal planners and you may have joined a gym. This makes that particular goal resourced.

T – Finally we have Time limited. This means that you should look to set a time limit on when the goal will be achieved, again this has to be achievable in the given time frame. However not all goals are time bound eg a life goal – “Today I feel happy, everyday more happiness is coming my way”. With this goal there is no time limit but on goals such as losing weight, quitting smoking etc there should be a time limit as to when this will be achieved by.

So that is the SMART formula, in the next post we will look at how to frame a goal.

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The SMART way to Completely Change your Future!

Do ever find that your future plans are blighted by difficulty? So much so that you give up on your desired  outcomes? Do you see that many people who set off on a journey of change fail?

What if you knew exactly the destination you were headed? You had a ticket printed off and you knew the vehicle that would get you there? Would this be something worth knowing? This sounds like something very powerful, and it is – when it used properly!

Now what I will reveal here today you may think “I’ve heard all this before”. However you should read through exactly what I am talking about and put it into practice. This will ensure that you are giving yourself a chance to succeed in whatever change you are considering.

So if I could show you a formula to achieve all this  and manifest your desired state of being, would that help?

Of course it would!

A word of warning. When I reveal this to people they think they’ve heard it all before, they then don’t practice it in the way that was discussed and guess what? They fail! So it is essential to practice it firstly and secondly practice it as discussed.

You may have heard of goal setting as a way of getting a clear vision of the future. How has this been taught to you in the past? Many teachers advocate taking a plain white piece of card (about the size of a postcard), then writing the desired outcome in a way that places it as a future desire, you set a date and then read the goal every day while trying to visualise it happening.

Most of us have seen this method at some point in our lives. The trouble with this method is that it doesn’t really hold you to account. It doesn’t really get down to the nitty gritty. It also sets a future outcome eg using the weight loss example again ‘By July 3rd 2015, I will have lost 12 pounds in weight’.

So with this method the future outcome becomes something I may get around to at some point in the future. Also it sounds like a lot of work and may become quite boring and not really inspiring. Do you agree?

So the formula I go by is called SMART. What does this stand for?

In the next post I will reveal the exact formula. When you study this keep an open mind and you may surprise youself!

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Where Will You Find Inspiration?

While I was on holiday recently with my family in Oman, my partner Catherine captured this moment on video. We were both touched by this and I felt inspired to share this moment here. Perhaps it was the experience of being in Oman, or the Harp Players traditional Omani dress, being with family. But whatever it was I felt uplifted and happy.

It is this point that I want to discuss today. That is inspiration, uplifting moments etc. What inspires you? What has given you a sense of achievement? What has caused you to feel uplifted at any point in your life? There will be something, we all have them. The trouble is that we sometimes get so caught up life life we can’t see them.

So today I am asking you to remove your blindfold and see the great things that have already manifested into your life. You can then use this to drive you forward to achieve your desired state and make this change permanent.

Right now I want you to grab a notepad and pen or pencil. Once you have done this start to write a list. The list should contain all of the people, moments, experiences, thoughts, achievements or anything else that has caused you to feel uplifted.

Once you have done this you can reflect on each item in your list. How did you feel when you relived the moment?

Did you feel uplifted or happy you had experienced this?

This is an important resource in manifesting into your life your desired change. The reason for this is because it reminds you of all the past experiences and then you feel glad you had those and this inspires you, drives you forward to be the great person you are!

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Your Toolbox

Each of the resources I have spoken about so far are essential for you to have in your toolbox of resources. I have spoken about thought processes and ways you should consider applying this to the desired change.

All resources should be learned and applied so that you end up in your desired state of being much more easily and quicker than would have bee the case had you not applied these to your life situation.

In the last post we did some revision on the Eco-systems theory and the bridge building supported by your resources. One of those resources discussed in my last post was taking action. By now you should have a weekly planner that will hold you responsible for the changes you are going to be making.

Over the years one great expert I have accessed is Dr Joe Vitale. You may have seen him in the movie ‘The Secret’. He has also published countless books on achieving your desired state. You can take a look at what he says right here.

Joe Vitale is also a great advocate on taking action and not allowing your desired change to pass you by.

So don’t let it pass you by check out the resources and add them to your toolbox as you cross your bridge to your desired state of being.

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Taking Action on your Desired Outcome

In my last post I talked about resources you will need in order to make any change permanent. We have discussed the Eco-Systems theory where you interact within one Eco-system but desire to move into a different Eco-system. To do this we discussed building a bridge. A bridge is a structure that crosses an obstacle, this makes the journey quicker and easier to navigate. A bridge gets its strength fro the supporting structures which we will call resources.

We then moved on to discuss what these resources will look like and how they will be vital in supporting your bridge. In the last post I talked about changing your thought processes, thus changing the way you feel about any transition challenge you face. Changing the thought processes like this changes your attitude towards the change you are contemplating. I discussed one possible way to achieve this through hypnotherapy and one expert who could help with this is Dr Steve G Jones.

In this post we are going to be discussing a way of moving your actions towards the state of being that you desire. In this post I am going to talk about something which is commonly referred to as Behavioural Activation. So what behaviour(s) are you going to activate?

This very much depends upon the type of change you are considering. But the principle is the same whatever the change. You see for change to occur you need to take action. Some may think that if you wish hard enough for something that it will just manifest itself into your reality. Thinking and wishing are unfortunately not enough for this to happen. The magic ingredient is action.

So take a large piece of paper and at the top write in the days of the week into columns. Next down the left hand margin write in morning, afternoon & evening. What you should end up with is a week planner. In the boxes you can now write in the actions you will take and when you will take them, this then holds you to account! With the planner you may wish to write a list first and then use the list to inform the planner.

You may be considering a weight loss plan, if so what will the plan be? Will you have to buy something if so when? Will you need to write up a weekly meal plan also to inform your grocery shopping? What day of the week will this take place and when will you do the shopping? If you want quit smoking what are the steps you will take? You may look into purchasing an e-cig, you might cut down on your tobacco intake weekly, if so how this be achieved and when will you start?

So now you can see by organising yourself in this way you can begin to take the steps on your journey to permanent change.

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Support Structures for your Bridge

Today I want to talk about how you are going to start your journey across the bridge to the Eco-system you can see but haven’t yet arrived at. Making any change permanent in life there a certain things you should do in order to really cement that change into place.

I talk about Eco-systems, you are currently interacting in let’s say the Eco-system for being overweight but you can clearly see the Eco-system of your desired weight loss. You are clear on what it is you desire, but there exists a tension within you. You have started to build strong foundations by building up your awareness and insight. Now you have to start to build your bridge.

A bridge gets its strength from the support structures these provide strength when they are maintained. The first pillar of support I will be covering today is all about changing your mindset. Now what do I mean by this? Well all this really means is that you should aim to restructure your thinking styles around the challenge of the change you desire.

That’s all very well and good but how do I manage to achieve this? Good question. Well there are ways in which you can achieve this and it is no secret that if you change the way you think you can change the way you feel. This should also lead to changes in the way you act and your attitude to any given challenge.

So what are the ways you can achieve this? One way is through hypnotherapy. Now don’t get scared by this, hypnotherapy is nothing like the hypnosis you may have seen on TV with stage hypnotists. Contrary to what some may think, you cannot be made to do something you weren’t looking to achieve. Hypnosis is simply an altered state of consciousness, you are the one in control and at any point you could bring yourself out of  a hypnotic trance.

Of course you always want to use an expert in the field! Fortunately there are experts. One that I fully recommend is a guy called Dr Steve G Jones (Clinical Hypnotherapist). I have used many of his programmes and they are fantastic. He currently has more hypnotherapy recordings online than anyone else. So if you want to lose unwanted weight, if you would like to boost your confidence, maybe quit smoking or even conquer social anxiety then I’m sure that Dr Steve G Jones will have a hypnotherapy recording to suit you and this makes an excellent first pillar supporting your bridge.

So now is your time to make the change you desire permanent. Go and start building your bridge supported by your resources and be sure to visit Dr Steve G Jones today!

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Building Foundations of Your Change

Ok, so we have now started the process of change. You are now aware that you interact within your unique Eco-system. Here you can get clear on what it is you desire as the change you will be manifesting in your life. You can see clearly that change, what it looks and feels like to you.

You may feel a tension deep inside as you observe the change because you haven’t arrived at it yet. You also have an understanding of how health works in a holistic way biologically, psychologically, socially, economically and spiritually. So what next then?

The way I see it you now need to start your journey!

In moving from one state of being to another and from Eco-system to another you must understand that there is an obstacle in the way separating you from the desired Eco-system. In a way it is like you are on an island and you can see across the water the island of your desired state. How will you get across to the other side.

You could just jump right into the water and attempt to get across couldn’t you?

The problem with this approach is that you could get caught on the rocks as you face the challenge of change. You could become overwhelmed by the currents and swept away onto the shore of the Eco-system you just tried to leave, feeling a lot worse.

You have now started to build foundations for a bridge by becoming more aware of how change works in moving from one state of being to another. What is bridge?

A bridge is a structure that crosses an obstacle, it makes the journey much easier to navigate and quicker to Arrive at your desired location. The bridge gets its strength from support structures (resources you will access). The bridge remains strong when the whole support system is maintained.

So if you want arrive at your desired state of being easily and quicker than would have been the case and to make that change permanent you need to start building that bridge!

In the next post I will be discussing the support structures or resources you can access to support your journey

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